The Chaos Free® Method

A science-based approach to transform daily overwhelm into calm, confident support for sustainable behavioral change.

A Different Approach

“Chaos” speaks directly to what many families experience when raising neurodivergent children within paradigms that are wrong. When learning and motivation systems don’t match how a child’s brain actually works, daily life can quickly turn into confusion, conflict, and exhaustion for everyone involved. The Chaos Free® Method helps adults move beyond outdated motivational models and build environments that support growth.

Instead of focusing on controlling behavior, the Chaos Free® Method focuses on:

When these elements are in place, behavior begins to change naturally — because the child is learning critical life skills.

The Principles Behind Chaos Free®

Mary knows what it’s like to search desperately for the right support for both a child and the entire family. That experience is why she is so passionate about helping families affected by ADHD find peace, confidence, and success. Mary built the Chaos Free® program with these guiding principles in mind:
Mary’s goal is to help families experience real, positive change through the Chaos Free® Method—so parents feel understood, children feel supported, and together they build calmer days, stronger relationships, and lasting growth.
Connection
Collaboration
Rhythm
People Like Me
Connection

The foundation for learning to manage ADHD. When a child feels their parent truly “gets” them—understanding why some skills develop more slowly and some tasks feel harder—it changes everything. Families feel calmer, and relationships grow stronger.

Collaboration

Parents and children learning to work together to build life skills, problem-solving, and self-advocacy. Nothing builds confidence and independence faster than a child feeling like part of the solution—not the problem.

Rhythm

The steady, predictable flow of daily life created through simple, consistent routines—helping everyone know what to expect, move through the day with less stress, and build the skills needed for independence over time.

People Like Me

Mary has ADHD, too—which means she understands that many parents supporting their child are navigating similar challenges themselves. That’s why she designs her programs with short, focused video lessons and flexible ways to learn—including handouts, audio options, and closed captions—so parents can engage in a way that works with their brain.

Chaos Free® Programs

Chaos Free® Family

A behavioral management training and coaching program that helps parents understand executive function challenges, like those associated with ADHD, and move from daily frustration to clarity, connection, and collaboration.

Parents learn brain-based perspectives and practical, step-by-step strategies to work with their child to support emotional regulation, build life skills, and create routines that truly work.

The result is less stress, stronger relationships, and a child steadily growing in confidence and independence within a more peaceful home.

Chaos Free® Homework!

A collaborative parent–student program that helps students develop academic systems while teaching parents how to support the process without power struggles. Students build ownership of their learning while parents gain clarity on how to help effectively.

Chaos Free® ADHD Coaching

Personalized coaching for families navigating ADHD-related challenges. Sessions focus on practical strategies, collaborative problem-solving, and building systems that support long-term success.

Who Can Be Chaos Free

Mary Smith welcomes all those supporting neurodivergent children including:

If supporting a neurodivergent child is part of your life, this is a place for you.

Live Chaos Free.

Imagine a home where motivation grows from connection instead of pressure.

Where children build the skills they need — and families rediscover the joy of growing together.